Dear Universe:

Please find me a brilliant, kind hearted, beautiful, thick, mature, emotionally and financially stable, tall man who isn't a drunk or stoned train wreck with a chip on his shoulder. For fucksake.

I am perfectly healthy.
I am perfectly healthy.
I am perfectly healthy.

Shut the Fuck Up Already!

Body shaming under the guise of "I'm worried for your health" is bullshit. Is obesity a problem? Yes, many have sedentary lifestyles and poor nutrition, but unless you have been specifically asked to give your medical opinion on someone's body, then shut your mouth. NO ONE ELSE'S BODY IS ANYONE ELSE'S BUSINESS, nor is body size necessarily indicative of health. You are allowed to wear whatever the hell makes you feel good and happy. Body shaming and fat shaming are one of the few acceptable forms of discrimination left and it's not ok. No one body "type" is more or less entitled to a certain kind of garment. All bodies are good bodies. All bodies are acceptable bodies. End rant.

Sometimes sticking to your guns and doing what you know is right for you means missing out on things.

I am on the right path.

Just received a Facebook message from a friend of a friend who I haven't see or thought about in almost a decade. All I want to do in this life is help people learn that they are important and special and loved. Today I needed to hear that. Here it is:

"I am sobbing!!! Full on! I was near but it's full on! I was just a cool person you knew but I was having a horrible night once (bonfire night, remember that night?)...anyway you pulled me aside and basically told me how I need to find love in myself and how to love myself and fuck everything else and it has REALLY stuck with me all these years. So while I may have been a passer-byer to you.. you were sincerely a really big influence to seeing myself with some self love and helped start me to stopping to loathe myself. I know that sounds really deep, don't mean it to be, you were just a teacher to me at a very turbulent part of my life and it really helped me a lot, turned the page to my next chapter and I've never forgot you and I thank you!"


No, THANK YOU. <3

Summer Jam Selections (aka Musical Shit I'm Obsessed With Currently):

*Now You're Gone- Basshunter

*Oh Yoko- John Lennon

*Cry For You (Radio Edit)- September (might just be the Bronski Beat sample)

*We Are Mustache Riot (Original Mix)- Mustache Riot (yeah, yeah, it's dubstep...)

*L.E.S. Artistes- Santigold

*Four Letter Word- Gossip

*Evangeline- The Band

*Making Time- Creation

*A.M. 180- Grandaddy

*Skinny Love- Bon Iver (still!)

*Wobble- V.I.C.

*Lions In Cages- Wolf Gang

*Miami (Muffin Remix)- Walter Sobcek

*Sail- AWOLNATION

*Lighthouse- NewVillager (a little TVOTR nod, methinks)

*Chiperoni- Alick Nkhata

*Sistinas- Danzig

*Never Le Nkemise 2- Die Antwoord

*We Found Love- Rihanna (and Calvin Harris).......(and while we're at it:)

*Feel So Close- Calvin Harris

*Song to the Siren- John Frusciante (cover)

*Call Your Girlfriend- Robyn

*You Ain't Alone- Alabama Shakes

*Bump n' Grind- R.Kelly

*I Can Make the Pain Disappear- Fear of Tigers

Imbolc.

I can't believe it has taken me almost 30 years to realize that not everyone always deserves the benefit of the doubt and that some people, whether it is nature or nurtured are just not that awesome... and furthermore I can choose to not have them in my life and in my heart. I will always always always be a compassionate and loving human being but this whole "having healthy boundaries" thing is a wonderful concept.